5 tips to help resolve conflicts quickly & easily (Part 1)

How do you feel about the conflict? Often, the conflict that occurs or escalates into conflict makes those who witness, or are directly affected, feel like sitting on a fire. Like political battles in the US, where parties refuse to listen and talk to each other.

But things are not required to be so serious!

You can completely handle, stop, and transform your concerns about a conflict that can happen at any time into something that can be more helpful to everyone. In other words, you can focus your mind on more useful things than worry about a fight.

With these 5 tips, I'll show you how to curb impulses, purposeful impatience and transform them, making them more useful. Since next time, when you see signs of a conflict, try these 5 tips.

1. Share your views in a win-win way

Researchers have demonstrated that thinking can change life and the world, as an author of Science Lynne McTaggart presents in "The Intention Experiment": "When we form positive views polar, then we will activate a positive energy flow. " It is like waves of thought running through your head, and you can feel it.

When you feel there are signs of a potential conflict, especially when you see people starting to lose control or getting hurt, you must smash that tense atmosphere and say, "I think of this conversation even though we sometimes judge each other out of annoying and negative psychology; But all of that is for us to work towards the best for all. ”

And then you ask the question: "Do people agree with this view or have anyone suggested a better idea?". Basically, this job is facilitating the kind of positive activism to emerge.

If people disagree with you, you should always take this view for yourself. Because lessening a conflicting mindset will also partially reduce the risk of stress.

2. Look at people with a positive eye

Especially when anger is arising in a conflict, we can easily see people with a negative eye, and make bad judgments about the other person. None of this is useful to anyone and it can lead to a broken job.

Change, put yourself in the shoes of others, and empathize with them, even if they are very obnoxious. There are people who only annoy others, who can drive you crazy and avoid them. But when you understand them, recover them, they will be a great help for you.

None of us wake up every day thinking "I will become hateful". Is not! Nobody wants that, but there will always be people who think you are the kind of person who does things to other people. Although, they do not know that yesterday you had a stressful working day and have to stay up until 2am this morning to complete all that makes you not in the best condition for today.

Before you judge, criticize someone and think a little bit slower. Find out why, why they become so. Put yourself in their shoes, empathize with them. Because no one naturally likes to hug themselves in trouble ever!

3. Be open and tell what you need!

Conflicts stemmed partly because each person does not know what the other is looking for! We have to know what the opponent needs so that we can bring the optimal solution to our mutual satisfaction. The following story is an example:

There were two cooks in the break, and they were both going to the end of the kitchen to get the only orange left. Who should this orange belong to? They decided to cut it in half, because that thought was the fairest way.

Afterwards, a chef came to his workplace and began squeezing orange juice to drink. The other one is going to look for a sharpening tool because that cook is in need of orange peel for spice materials and does not intend to eat or drink the orange.

If the two chefs had a clear discussion about what they needed from the orange, they could have had more than they needed.

Remember this story in controversial situations and say a kind sentence: “I want the problem solved in the best interest of both parties. Now let's share what we need, and find the best solution. I will start saying what I need. How about you? Would you like to say it first?

Or what do you need? ”

4. Share your worries and momg wants

When we know what others are worried about, we can help them avoid situations they don't want.

Similarly, when we know each other's wishes, we can help each other achieve it. This helps create solutions that are mutually beneficial to each other and share common benefits, not just their own interests.

5. Encourage new solutions

Conflict is a complex process, we don't know what will happen next and how it will turn out. So let's look straight at the problem and suggest to be open and come up with new solutions, so the more we receive positive surprises.

Please share with the people in the conflict of opinion: “If anyone here has an idea in mind about how to resolve conflicts here. I invite us to ignore all the factors that make you not express those ideas, be proactive, express your ideas. All for the best benefit of the team, let the positive things inside you be free to develop. ”

So the conflict stems from misunderstandings, because of the darkness of each individual. Be open to each other, sacrifice for each other. So everything will be fine and beneficial to the collective! Hope these 5 shares will help you.